2018 | 2019
Following the election I had an opportunity to do three professional coaching sessions with Melissa Pyne at Red Maple Professional Coaching Services. It was transformative.
With Melissa's help a seemingly small goal of returning to exercise (see: Hustl & Flow - it’s so fun!) after a very busy year resulted in me not only making and following-through on a plan, but also helped to identify other patterns that led me to not exercise in the first place.
I discovered that I’m bad at making incremental changes in my life. When I want to try something new, or make a change I go at it big and fast.
I love that about myself – I’m enthusiastic, I put myself out there, I love learning, and I often find myself out of my comfort zone. This kind of momentum helped me complete my comprehensive exam, a major milestone in my doctoral program, and then launch right into a municipal election campaign in 2018.
This pace also came with costs, though – I spent far less time than I’d like to caring for myself, my family, and my friendships.
While I don’t typically do a New Year's reflection or come up with any resolutions, after last year I needed to recalibrate. That’s why over the holidays I read the book How to Not Always be Working by marlee grace and I used this tool to reflect on the last year and make a plan for the year ahead.
This reading and reflecting helped me see and for the first time really acknowledge that I did two big things last year which is moving me away from dwelling on the feelings of guilt I had for who and what got less of my attention and towards motivation to makes changes (incrementally) to feel more whole.
As always, I’m excited and committed to working hard to make this community an even greater place. To sustain this work though – the work of making the world more just, equitable, and compassionate – calls me to also focus on self-love and self-care in the upcoming year. In the words of Audra Lorde:
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare.”